A boundary is defined as a line that marks the limits of an area, a division point, if you will, between one thing and whatever is not that. When applied to our interpersonal relationships, a boundary might be drawn between acceptable behavior and what's not acceptable, between what we will tolerate and what we won't. And yet, few of us are ever directly challenged to examine and clearly identify our boundaries, which creates an opening for all kinds of unconscious mischief with ourselves and others.
Undistinguished boundaries are often discovered when they get crossed. Everything's moving along smoothly and all of a sudden we're upset! What now? Or, if a boundary is regularly disrespected, we might find ourselves feeling resentful without a clear understanding of why. Is it me? It is them? Am I being unreasonable? Why can't I just get over this?
We train our partners and friends how to behave around us. With each interaction, we show them how to interact with us, what will be accepted and what will not, how we'll let them speak to us, etc. So if it's a major problem for you that your partner yells at you when he or she is angry, but you stick around and let it happen over and over again, the one disrespecting your boundary is YOU, and no one else can honor your boundary if you do not.
The solution is to take the time to examine our boundaries and needs, and do our personal work to honor them in the future, which includes effectively communicating them to our potential and/or existing partners.
This three part tele-class consists of:
- 3.75 hours of group coaching (regularly over $150)
- The E-Harmony Must Haves and Can't Stands List
- The Relātive Creātive Boundary Worksheet
- The Relātive Creātive Need Worksheet
- Additional limited email coaching support as needed between classes.
During this class you will learn to:
- Recognize the Red Flags when a boundary is in jeopardy.
- Identify and honor the consequences for another of crossing your boundaries.
- Compassionately communicate your boundaries and needs.
- Know when your needs are being met, and show appreciation!
- Create a mutually satisfying partnership!
Class times are on Wednesdays at 6 PM PST / 9 PM EST. Soon after you register, you'll receive the conference call details and your Prep Work documents. The class begins as soon as you're ready!
Session #3: December 7th
Since this is the maiden voyage of this fully-formed tele-class, I'm offering a one-time reduced rate of only $45/person, payable by check or through Paypal, with a limited class-size of twelve participants. To register, click the following LINK.
Your partners cannot read your mind, and your boundaries and needs remain invisible until you make the effort to distinguish them. Do yourself and your loved ones a favor, and make this class a priority!
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