Virginity, Feminism & Publicity: The "Deflowering" of Nicki Blue

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Dark Odyssey: Winter Fire

Yahoo! It's that time of year again!

I will unavailable for the next several days as I'll be in Washington DC attending Dark Odyssey: Winter Fire, hanging out with good friends and like-minded freaks, living, loving, learning, networking my well-spoken butt-off, promoting my book, and filming two workshops for the Kink Academy. In early March, I'll blog about the experience, who I met, what I learned, etc.

In the meantime - I've just given you some links to check out, haven't I?

Enjoy the adventure,
M


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The Kinky Toybag Tour - Fur

Okay, all of you PETA people, back the hell off! No animals were harmed in the writing of this blog.

Now that we've covered two sharp and scratchy toys, let's look at something sensual and soothing. Fur.

Now, I know, this is a touchy area for some people - I too have strong feelings about animal rights - but the truth is that there is nothing that feels like real fur. Luxurious, short or long haired, soft, smooth, sometimes oily... nothing compares to the sensation of real fur along bare skin. This is particularly true when the aforementioned skin has been sensitized with scratchy vampire gloves, pointy wheel-based pinpricks, or even an intense massage from the skilled hands of a friend or lover.

Given my love for most furry 4-legged creatures, I recommend looking for your fur in antique or used-clothing stores. Mink stoles, fox collars, rabbit fur gloves, lynx hats, sable boas - there are many products that offer you the use of their wonderful fur without increasing demand for fresh pelts, and they can be acquired for less than you might expect.

I just found a vintage fur collar on Ebay with one day remaining, no bids, for $20. But when you buy online, you can't handle the merchandise before purchase, and isn't that part of the fun? You're buying fur for cripes sake! If you have a partner to tease, I recommend making the shopping trip part of the anticipation... capitalist foreplay. Find your local antique shops and take a tour. Who knows what you'll find?


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The Kinky Toybag Tour - Whartenberg Wheel

Staying in the line of scratchy and pokey sensations, the Whartenberg Wheel, also known as a Wartenberg Pinwheel, is a medical tool that has been corrupted for kinky fun. You may have seen one before - a stainless steel handle attached to a spiky pinwheel that's used to test reflexes. Imagine a scene from ER or House where the doctor pulls something out of his pocket and runs it along the patient's instep, looking for a response to the stimulation.

The Whartenberg wheel achieves maximum sensation with minimal pressure - a whole line of sharp, pokey pinpricks on any chosen area of the body. Across the bare back, down the spine, under the palm, the sole of the feet, across the nipples, under the chin, over the cheekbone... you barely need to apply any pressure to elicit a variety of shivers, squeaks or moans. Increasing the pressure intensifies the reaction, but please be careful on sensitive areas of the body and avoid puncturing the skin unless you have explicit permission to do so. (Avoid eyelids unless you are a highly-experienced player and be risk-aware!)

Start light and observe your partner's response. Find out where it feels good, where it hurts, where it feels... how? Let them tell you. Then try increasing the pressure or varying your speed. You might run a slow and curvy line across their shoulder, down the back and around the curve of a hip, across the belly and up under a breast... and then hold the points under the crease of a breast and slowly press a little harder until they wince. Allow yourself to be inspired! Add a blindfold and hold back for several seconds, allowing the tension to build as they anticipate the incoming poke of the wheel... at... any... moment!

It's all about shared sensation, eh? On that note - use it on yourself before you use it on a partner so that you can get a feel for how hard is too hard... and then let them guide you. Everyone experiences sensation differently, and what may be pleasing for you may be beyond the pain threshold for them. Additionally, I recommend playing on bare skin as the wheel points can pull and snag fine fabrics.

You can acquire one of these babies with a lovely black leather sheath for just $15.95 at www.freddyandeddy.com. I highly recommend buying one with a sheath lest you risk reaching into your toy bag and Ouch!


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